Acceptance of Our Differences

In my life I have been truly blessed. I was born into a generation where many before us have fought battles for us in order for us to be just a little bit more free. I was born into a society where I could be gay and not be scared of being persecuted. I am blessed to be able to hold my wife's hand and not feel shame. Unfortunately, not every society, not every generation and not all genders have that opportunity.

The LGBT community is a minority community. In some cities there are large groups committed to providing help and support. However in some areas they don't have strong communities. Within the community there is discrimination towards each other. An example would be against the transgender community. Lesbians towards transgender men, gay males towards transgender women. Is it not enough that straight people discriminate but we feel the need to do it to each other.

I hate discrimination with a passion because it so often stems from hypocracy. So many times people dislike others because they hate that about themselves. For many homophobic people they have feelings within themselves that they either do not accept or do not understand.

I recently read of a story of a transgender male who was made fun of by butch lesbians and their femme girlfriends.  Butch and femme couples will often encounter men who will say offensive statements such as: 'Let me show you what a real man can do.' It's like dealing with children. I worked with children for over 10 years, I was a kid (teenager) myself when I started. "Do unto others as you want done to you." Even they understand that simple concept.

I was 12 when a 8 year old boy said "I'm a girl trapped in a boy's body." For as long as I had known him he just seemed to have a lot of female tendencies and then when he blurted this out it made sense to me and I went on with my childhood.  The fact that he was so young and he seemed to comprehend that concept was a bit peculiar. He understood the concept that he didn't feel comfortable in his own skin but he had an idea of what comfort he was seeking. On top of that his parents were teachers who constantly tried talking to him to understand what he was going through. We all just wrote it off as he was gay. Now I think he may have become a Drag Queen or transgender.

What I want you to understand is that sometimes we just don't feel comfortable in our own skin. A person can feel that societies ideas or norms for their gender don't make them feel comfortable. As a human race we evolve. As societies we move forward we adjust to fit. We adjust to what is comfortable and what our views are. All that we ever want to do is be comfortable with who we are so who are you to judge and bully someone else if you have your own so called faults.

No one will ever be perfect. No one will ever be a perfect fit for a label and its stereotypes. This is why you have to accept that everyone is different. You do not have to accept the why but it try to understand it. Do not judge others if they are not harming anyone. It is not your job to judge it is your job to live your life to the fullest without hurting others. Until you are in someone else's exact position you will not understand them. Remember you never know what is going on in someone else's head. Your comment could be the straw that breaks the camel's back. Do you want to hold someone's life in your hand? Do you want to be responsible for the death of a human being? I sure as hell don't. Then again I know that others are different, will always be different and we just have to accept it and embrace it.

Happy Valentine's Day

Roses are Red Violets are blue it wouldn't be the 14th without a poem or two.

Well it's Valentine's Day and Target shelfs have been wiped out, florists are being raided and men are scrambling to figure out what's going on. I mean I have been planning for this day for almost a month so I'm in the clear. I know many will form the argument that you don't need a special day to tell the one you love how you feel but I think you do. You can go against society but you're the only one who is going to be screwed when you partner is expecting a present and your all badass oh sorry baby I don't believe in a Hallmark moment.

Anyways some few tips for those last minute romantics out there.

If you lack culinary talent grab a few recipes from online and make her something and shape it into a heart. Pancakes, a sandwich, anything cute and creative. Don't forget how easy strawberry's are. Get a tub of nutella if she likes that and spoon onto a cute plate, for dipping. Whip cream is always good. Get her, her favorite drink such as a latte or juice that you know she loves. This will show her you pay attention. That can be like a pre-present you know just to show her you love her.

Flowers if you have some in your back yard or a friends fresh cut flowers in a beautiful vase or wrapped in newspaper and red and pink colored tissue paper, a definite plus.

Don't forget a card everyone's loves to here sentimental stuff even if you didn't write it. Just don't forget to not just sign your name but include a few words to make it seem personal.

Plans for the night.

Remember it is about both of you. Now don't be selfish and love your partner and show them how much you love them. In the end when they see how much you are willing to do for them they will go the extra mile for you.  Try and look and smell your best. A fresh shaving, a shower a few surprises they may not be expecting. Surprises are usually a good thing, when thought out of course.

Well enjoy you night and have fun.

A Kitty For Santa Ch. 03

As you may have figured out I am a writer. My favorite genre is Lesbian Erotica. I have written several stories published solely on a site called Literotica. If your interested have a look and enjoy yourself while your at it, no pun intended.

I have written a series called  "A Kitty For Santa." The third chapter was released today. I know it took longer than usual but it is now out and I hope you enjoy the newest addition to a four part series. I would like to invite you see a few of the outfits I have created for my characters based on the story. I think it is fun to be able to see what I picture when I have described these characters.

Tiffany meets her new sparring partner Anna.

Tiffany wants to forget about a lost love.

Santa wants Kitty back and she'll do whatever she has to.

A relationship struggles to be defined. 

Under a desk or on top Agent Solo needs Detective Prescott, as much as Kitty needs Santa.

Don't forget I write for our pleasure. See you on the next one. 

A Kitty For Santa Ch. 03.

Ideas for fun

As promised ideas for fun in bed. Have fun and try new things. You know learn something new everyday.

Gels for the nipples or clits. Beware of the non-edible type because that limits the fun. The stimulation this can create while you're somewhere else having other fun is perfect for messing with the brain on what deserves attention most. There are some than can cool and others that can heat up.

Massage Oils - Now I know many people work really hard and come home tired as hell. So be the better person and say hey why don't I give you a nice massage to help you relax. (No expectations.) Make it worth their while and then add some sensuality. Get a little too close to their erogenous spots. Who knows maybe they won't be the only lucky one. 

Masssage Candles- Now I know many of you have seen in a movie or a sow where someone will burn a candle and then pour hot wax on their partner and for many of us this may seem ridiculous because of the pain. Therefore there are candles that are meant to

Vibrating rings- These are usually used for penises but if you think about it is meant for the penetration mechanism. However, you can use it on any of your fingers either those going into her or the one playing with her clit such as your thumb. This adds for stimulation without using an actual vibrator. You can also use while your tongue is in full swing.

I'll have a few more ideas soon especially for those interested in toys. Enjoy.